It’s hard not to be disappointed or frustrated with a brands sudden email to you to cut their ties loose with you until you meet their criteria.
Which I already do. FYI here’s their criteria:
- 5,000 followers
- Authentic followers and likes
- Consistent & proportionate engagement rate
- Regular and frequent posts
- Original content
- Public account
- Beauty, lifestyle, or fashion theme
When I questioned then about it they gave me this response:
Unfortunately, our third party verification provider has flagged your account for unexplained activity. We will be looking into this further however we are unable to reinstate your account at this time.
Wat?! If the brands did their homework they’d realize there is no spike in my engagement, following etc. There are apps that can let you know of false engagement. Look up your favourite bloggers and friends, I guarantee one of them will have an erratic growth rate. It should be a steady incline, maybe a plateau.
I suppose you could say the proportionate engagement rate lacks on my Instagram platform. This is why I’m 100% certain that bloggers, and influencers feel the need to bump up their engagement by faking it. Buying likes. Buying followers. Buying comments. You name it.
Well I’m NOT doin’ it.
I’m not giving in.
Guess that’s what you get with being a blogger or posting on social media and being an “influencer”. There are no rules. There is no set norm.
Personally I know my engagement sucks right now. For the past 15 years with my blog (and now social channels) I’ve posted regularly, interacted with many. Left comments, likes. I spent hours after my regular job doing so. It was like a second full-time job keeping up with it all.
Now? I’m posting infrequently, I’m not on that daily schedule like I once was. And you know what? I probably won’t be like that for a long time, if ever. I now have a five month old baby I care much more about than the darn tootin’ internet.
As a blogger I’ve signed some great contracts recently (it’s only now starting to pick up), and I have made some amount of income for our family. I’d love to keep that up, so I’m voicing my opinion.
It just sucks that these brands are coming out with rules out of their butts, making them up because they see other influencers getting more (faux) interaction. I’m disappointed because some bloggers and influencers even admitted to me they’re faking the system. Hence this weird logic for brands to make such rules. How disappointing.
It drives me (nuts). I’m hoping this blog post doesn’t sound bitter. I’m just trying to explain the facts and of course some feeling is involved as well.
My new “mom rule” for myself is to not be on my phone while my baby is awake. Sure it’s hard and I definitely break my own rules. However, of course he’s more important than an electronic device. So when he’s down for a nap, or down for the night, I gotta bust out that multitasking skills that many parents have, and get to work. Including blog work.
Anyway, to end this, I’m happy some brands trust me, my readers and engagement and are helping me make an income.
If you have a favourite blogger, instagrammer etc., don’t forget to pop in and say hello sometimes with a comment or a like. It helps.
Baby’s third month was a complete turnaround for the other few months of his life. I think we’ve finally gotten into our groove. I now understand that my baby cannot be awake for more than 90 (or so) minutes at a time. Who knew babies needed to be put down for a nap before they give obvious cues?! Also, I know which cry is which (for the most part), and have somewhat of a routine down pat. Not only that, the whole Mom Group thing is going so well! We have a few hangout’s a week with a bunch of our new friends, and keeping baby socialized is great! On certain days we have plans, but I refuse to make any plans on Monday’s since that’s when I try and get the majority of housework done. It’s “easier” because I can eat leftovers from what I cooked over the weekend, so I have one less thing to worry about there. Plus, the rest of the days I try and only do one household chore a day so it’s not overwhelming.
I’ve had two people ask me how I “have my sh*t together”. Trust me, I don’t. There’s definitely days (like yesterday, and last Thursday for instance) where all I did was comfort and care for baby. He was having a off-days, and that’s totally okay – and normal! Like I said before, I’ll plan to only do one thing per day, because in the end, there will always be chores to do. And I’m gonna do them all over again next week, right? If I do a few loads of laundry one day, I probably won’t mop the floors on the same day (that is, unless I have like 4 coffees…which will never happen because I don’t want my baby to be over caffeinated, obviously).

It’s almost time for our little guy to have his first food! We’re thinking of introducing them to him after his 4 month pediatrician appointment this week. So to prep myself, I picked up some 
I actually thought it would be in the regular aisles of food but it wasn’t. Save on any Gerber Cereal at Target by using 
Single-grain infant cereals are an ideal first solid food to check for food sensitivities and help develop baby’s eating skills. And I can always nurse him after his cereal feeds, too. Man, it’s almost time to get a highchair for him too, since he’s doing pretty well sitting up in his little frog-chair! Exciting!
I love interacting and seeing our baby grow, and learn new things on a daily basis. Each day I try and teach him something new. Whether it be a new tree, a cloudy day, or even touching something different like sand, or grass, and even teaching him new words. This past weekend he got his first teddy bear and he kept coo-ing and talking to it, it was so adorable. Here are some other ways I think help keep him stimulated with his brain development. The first few years of a child’s life is definitely a prime-time for learning.
When did you first introduce foods to your baby? Every Mama, and every baby is different, but it’s interesting to get the conversation going! And what was your baby’s first food?